possible (sex abuse) triggering-ness

[rkt]

i've been back on a personal-writing-journal-roll. who knew that all i had to do was (start to) fire the damnable therapist? [tuesday's my last day, even though i don't officially have anyone new lined up. i had one hopeful prospect, but at $100 discounted bucks per session . . . i don't know. yes, i can get reimbursed eventually from the insurance, but that means involving the insurance.]

anyway...



a friend of mine has made the statement (i'm paraphrasing) that (virtually) all women will experience sexual abuse/misuse at some point in their lives.
i want to not believe this.
but experiences and knowledge tell me otherwise.

dear friends of livejournal,

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Comments

[xmorningxrosex.livejournal.com]

Oh I agree that it's still abuse, I just think that if a bunch of people were sitting around discussing such things, one person who doesn't think of what happened to themselves as abuse may not bring it up, even though everyone else in the group may have defined it that way.

I understand what you mean, it's like putting that label on it means admitting to it rather than just framing it as something maybe not so traumatic or serious in your own mind. For me, it was like, "well I don't know what to call it...I don't think it was this...but it wasn't that either..." so I guess that was one way of just not talking about it or admitting it and dealing with it.

good point in re: to how feminists discuss/respond to such things. I think maybe in feminist circles it's maybe just more accepted to be open about such things, whereas in my group of HS/college friends, it just wasn't things we talked about...or if we did, it was never anything said face-to-face without a feeling of shame or guilt or whatever (ie. a friend wrote and mailed me a letter telling me how she was raped when we were 14 or 15-ish, and didn't want to discuss it after that so it wasn't brought up again). I guess it goes back to the safe space thing for me...if people don't feel they're going to get blamed or whatever for it, they're gonna be more comfortable in talking about it.